Have you ever said, “I wish I had a million dollars,” “Some day I’ll take that trip,” “I wish I had a great job,” or “Maybe I should start saving for retirement?”
We all have professed our dreams. But do you actually believe you’ll get a million dollars, take that trip, find a great job or have enough money to retire some day?
You can tell how people feel about the reality of their dreams by listening to the words they use. People who believe in their goals don’t use words like “I wish,” “some day,” or “maybe.” They say, “I will make my first million by December 2013,” “I’m going to take that trip next February” (and already have the time off). They have identified great places to work and called about openings. They know how much money to put away each paycheck and when they can retire.
The secret to success – and getting what you want – isn’t in someone else’s control. The secret is in learning to shift how you think – your mindset – so you think ONLY of being successful and having an abundant life, then acting on it.
How do you shift your mindset to create a successful, abundant life? Think and speak consciously because the thoughts you think and the words you speak have power. Belief is the champion of positive thoughts and words. You must believe in your success.
And the antithesis of belief? Fear is usually the culprit behind negative thoughts and words that will defeat even the most brilliant person.
This Month’s Lesson:
Shift your mindset to success and believe you’ll succeed.
I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase, “You are your own worst enemy.” How many times have you talked yourself out of following through on a great idea or achieving a dream? Become your own best friend and speak to yourself the way you do when you encourage a family member or friend and tell them not to give up!
The real enemy is fear. Fear is a heavy weight that drags you down and prevents you from realizing your dreams. That’s why so many dreams go unfulfilled.
I’m not saying you should never feel fear. That’s impossible. Fear is always with us – just waiting for when we’re the most vulnerable to rear its ugly head and scream we won’t succeed. It takes on many forms, too – fear of rejection, fear of the unknown, fear of the truth, fear of what others think, fear of failure, even fear of success.
Fear won’t go away and it won’t be ignored. But what I will tell you to do is to FEEL IT. Feel the fear; acknowledge you’re afraid, then shift your mindset to one of believing you’ll succeed. When this happens, your fear turns into courage. And courage is fundamental to success.
Everyone feels fear, but the difference between successful people and those who aren’t is that successful people recognize their fear, breathe through it and change their mindset from one of fear to one of success. Then they attain their goals.
Every time fear grabs you, but you acknowledge and face it, you’ll find you’re stronger and it gets weaker.
Great people are great because they solve countless, seemingly unsolvable problems. You can, too, if you choose!
Mark Victor Hansen.
Your Action Step This Month
Here’s an exercise from “HOW TO THINK BIGGER THAN YOU EVER THOUGHT YOU COULD THINK” to complete this week:
Write ten goals – life changes you truly want – one on each page in a journal. Under each list the specific fear or fears keeping you from achieving the goal.
Do you fear failure – or success? Having others think you’re ridiculous? Being alone? The unknown? Identify what’s really keeping you from realizing your dreams.
After you’ve completed this task, review each goal and the fears you identified. Up until now, these powerful fears have crushed any joy you’d feel upon achieving these goals. It’s time to shift your fearful mindset to one of success – to move forward and overcome your fears. This is why the power of creative visualization is so important.
Find a quiet place where you can be alone for about an hour. Sit and listen to peaceful, meditative music. Hold your journal and relax. When you’re ready, only read the first goal (not the fears, just the goal) and close your eyes. Now here’s the fun part.
For example, if your first goal is to sing on stage, I want you to imagine choosing the song you’ll sing and what you’re going to wear. Now visualize the night of your performance, feel the clothes as you dress and look in the mirror.
It’s time for your performance. Be aware of how you feel as you walk onto the stage. Look up and see the bright, colored lights. The spotlight creates a halo of light around you. The audience quiets as the moment finally arrives. The band begins to play. Feel how nervous and excited you are as you open your mouth and start to sing. You’re brilliant and have never sung so sweetly. Listen to the applause. The audience gives you a well-deserved, standing ovation and demands an encore. As you walk off the stage after your third encore, experience your joy.
Take a moment to relish this joyful feeling of accomplishment. Replay it in your head. Then open your eyes and without looking at them, cross off the fears listed under this goal. Do this with each one. Focus only on the joy you’ll feel as each is accomplished.
Fear is always with us, but that doesn’t mean you have to let it rob you of achieving your dreams and living the life you deserve. Think. Acknowledge. Breathe. Believe. Find the joy!
See you next month!
Mark Victor Hansen